Complaining is not the solution!

How do you feel when someone unloads all of his problems and complaints on you? Not every uplifting and energizing, is it? The truth is, nobody likes to be around a complainer-except, perhaps, other complainers.

Of course, all of us complain at one time or another. The important question is: How often do you complain? If you’re wondering whether you can complain too much, simply ask your friends, relatives, or co-workers. They’ll let you know.

Now, when I say ‘’complain’’, I’m not talking about those in an attempt to search for solutions. That’s constructive and commendable. And I’m not referring to those occasions when you share your life experiences (including disappointment) with friends or relatives in the context of bringing them up to date on the latest developments in your life. After all, part of being human is sharing our experiences and supporting each other.

Face This Fact: Nobody wants to hear about your aches and pain. Whenever you tell someone about your pain they switch the conversation to their own pain. Because complainers love to play this game-their pain is always worse than yours. And some people do useless complaints like they complaints about the weather like when it starts to rain and people say, ‘’what a lousy, miserable day.’’Why does some moisture from heaven make it a lousy day?. Your complaints about the weather won’t change the conditions. It simply makes no sense to get upset about things over which you have no control which has no significant impact on your life.

‘’The secret of happiness is to count your blessing while other are

adding up their troubles.’’

Complaining is not the answer to our challenges in life. A great person said that-’’If you have all the fresh water you want to drink and all the food you want to eat, you ought never to complain about anything.’’

Let me show you some of the things you should grateful for:

1. You are in good health.

2. Your family is in good health.

3. You have your own home.

4. You have plenty of food to eat and clean water to drink.

5. You live in a democratic country and enjoy freedom.

This is just a partial list of blessings in your life. With all of these wonderful things, it is the blessings and it will boost your attitude and will bring you right back on the correct track.

So, what is that you’ve been complaining about lately? Are they really ‘’life and death matters? The next time you’re tempted to gripe about your problems, pick up a pen and piece of paper, and start listing all the reasons you have to be grateful!

Let me tell you, it sure beats complaining!

Be A Source Of Positive News

I’m not suggesting that you just sit back and ignore all of the problems in your life. However, rather than complaining, it’s far better to focus your attention and your energy on those steps you can take to solve, or at least lessen, your problem. For instance, let’s say you’re feeling a little tired lately. Instead of telling everyone how lousy you feel, make an effort to exercise more regularly, or get to bed a little earlier.

To review: Complaints work against you in three ways. First, no one wants to hear negative news about your illness and your problems. Second, complaining reinforces your own pain and discomfort. So why keep replaying painful, negative memories? Third, complaining, by itself, accomplishes nothing and divert you from the constructive actions you could be taking to improve your situation.

It’s been said that 90 per cent of the people don’t care about your problems…and the other 10 per cent are glad you have them! Seriously though, all of us can cut down on our complaining. From now on, let’s do ourselves and other a flavour and make our conversation uplifting.

The people who don’t complain very much (and those who speak positively) are a joy to be around. Decide to join that group-so people won’t have to cross the street when they see you coming!

‘’Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortune of which all men have some.’’

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